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A space for reflection, learning, and support through life’s challenges and transitions


The Lighthouse Era: What IFS Taught Me About Coping With an Empty Nest
When your child leaves home, excitement can exist alongside grief and a shifting sense of identity. How Internal Family Systems can help us navigate the transition with self-compassion.

Marilyn Hymes
5 days ago4 min read


How to Heal Attachment Wounds and Become Securely Attached
Attachment wounds don't have to define your relationships forever. Learn what research says about how people can become more securely attached over time.

Marilyn Hymes
Aug 66 min read


Attachment Wounds: What They Are and How They're Formed
Attachment wounds often begin in childhood and shape how we experience relationships, trust, and emotional safety. Learn how they form and how healing is possible.

Marilyn Hymes
Jul 204 min read


How to Deconstruct Negative Thoughts: A Simple CBT Exercise
Your thoughts shape how you feel—but they aren't always true. Learn a four-step process to build healthier thinking habits.

Marilyn Hymes
Jul 163 min read


Catching the Spiral: A Guide to Cognitive Distortions
Anxiety, self-doubt, and inner conflict often begin with the stories we tell ourselves. Discover how identifying cognitive distortions can help you think more clearly.

Marilyn Hymes
Jul 165 min read


A Kinder Way to Say the Hard Thing: The Four Parts of Nonviolent Communication
What if difficult conversations could bring more connection instead of conflict? Learn the four simple parts of Nonviolent Communication.

Shannon Kromat
Jul 163 min read


The Anxiety Trap: Why Scrolling Feels Good and Makes It Worse
Scrolling can feel like a break from anxiety, but it often deepens the cycle. Discover what's happening in your brain and healthier ways to cope.

Shannon Kromat
Jul 163 min read


Why So Many Young Adults Feel Isolated (And Why It's Not a Character Flaw)
Young adulthood can be one of life's loneliest seasons. Discover why the longing for connection is part of being human—not a sign that something is wrong with you.

Marilyn Hymes
Jul 34 min read


How to Find the Right Therapist in Santa Cruz (Without Feeling Overwhelmed)
Searching for a therapist can feel like a lot. Here's how to cut through the noise and find someone who truly meets your needs.

Kelly Sumner
Jul 36 min read


Letting Them Fly: Navigating the Emotional Journey of launching Your Teen
Discover how to support your teen's growing independence while staying connected through one of your biggest transitions.

Marilyn Hymes
Jul 24 min read


Why Setting Healthy Boundaries Feels Like Betrayal (And Isn't)
The discomfort of setting boundaries isn't a sign you've made a mistake and it may actually be part of the healing.

Marilyn Hymes
Jul 23 min read


Chemistry vs Emotional Connection: What Builds Lasting Relationships
The feeling that sweeps you off your feet is not always the feeling that keeps you together. Learn what truly builds lasing relationships.

Kelly Sumner
May 281 min read


Beyond the Therapy Room: Upskilling as a Founder & Director
Building a therapy practice requires more than clinical expertise. Reflections on the unexpected skills, challenges, and growth that come with leading a group practice.

Kelly Sumner
May 263 min read
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